Early morning emails

At 3AM, I was awakened by this email from Reed in Vermont:

Sean,
I just read your latest blog and I am now sitting here in tears trying to figure out what exactly to do about what I have done. I met the most wonderful woman about 5 months ago. She was everything I'd been looking for and I knew it, but somehow that scared the sh*t out of me. Everything was okay when I was with her and I wanted her to be "the one", and that also scared me. I'd been through a few bad relationships and when I found her, she was nothing like I'd ever experienced before. In short, she was perfect in my eyes.

Everything was SO right, and it scared me so much, I ran away from how I felt. I told her I had "gotten caught in the moment" and that i was "sewpt away" and that I didn't really feel the way I did deep down. I was just so scared to feel like that and to feel so vulnerable that I felt I couldn't be with her. I broke her heart.

I know now after some time apart that she IS the one. Everything feels wrong without her here and I want to try to ask for her to open her heart to me, but how do I do that? How do I get the love of my life back?

Reed


I didn't bother waking Theresa by email for this, but I am sure she'll understand. Reed, you need to be honest with yourself and make sure, deep down, that you feel the way you do. You pushed feelings away, perhaps because you were scared, but also because they were new to you, and when you're in unfamiliar territory but you're used to a routine or a certain way of feeling, it can be a scary thing.

If you truly want this woman back, go to her, call her, email her, and let her know your feelings. Work things out, but give her time. A broken heart takes time to heal. Explain that you want her in your life and tell her how much you love her. Hopefully she takes you back. Good luck Reed.