A letter.

Tony from Ohio writes:

Sean

This site is awesome. Not only do I get to read relationship advice, but I also get some good music for my IPOD..thanks for that. It's like the perfect site.

I am writing in because I am confused by a guy I like. He is always flirting with me at work and we get along really well, but he is married. We haven't spent time alone together (I've asked him to go for drinks, but he's always busy), and I am beginning to wonder if he even has any feelings for me at all. He is really flirtatious with me at work, but doesn't seem to want to every get together after work. I feel bad for liking a guy who is married, but I am also confused as to why he'd be flirtatious and not have any feelings for me outside of work.. Any ideas?

Tony

Theresa- He doesn't have feelings for you. I am guessing you are mistaking friendliness for flirting. If he jokes with you and has conversations with you, that isn't flirting. It's being friendly. Notice: FRIENDly. I am guessing he likes being friends with you. Keep up the asking him out after work thing and you are going to cause issues that may end that friendship. Just be happy you have a hot guy friend.

Sean- I agree. He isn't necessarily flirting with you by joking around and talking with you. If he says more intimate things, gives you small gifts, or is willing to go out with you on a date, then it's something other than friendship, but in that case, why would you want to be with a man that would willingly cheat on his partner? Guys are simple people. Don't think more into this than you already have. He probably is not flirting. It sounds like he is just being a friendly guy. Don't let your attraction screw up a good thing.

More later? We'll see...