A side letter..

Annie in Missouri wrote:

Sean

These dating disasters were amazing. I have friends that have had some great stories to tell after dates, so I told them to write. You'll see what I am talking about.

Anyway, I have a different issue to talk about. Here's my story:

I was dating this guy on and off for about seven years. We had no reason to keep us together other than the comfort level, and we fought all of the time. It was a relationship that started nicely but turned ugly. After things became physically abusive, I broke it off and moved out of state. I'd been without him for about 6 months and had started dating a new guy..things were going great..until my ex found out. He pursued me to no end. He played mind games and even called me, with news I didn't want to hear.

He told me that he'd given me an STD and that no one would accept me into a new relationship out of fear for their health. He said he'd always loved me and kept asking me to come back, so after confirming that I did have the STD, I broke the new guy's heart and went back to him. He still lived about 8 hours away and we talk, but I am not happy. Not like I was with the new guy. I find myself wondering what the new guy is doing, what he thinks of me, and if he still loves me as much as I love him. The truth is, I was so scared that the new guy would break MY heart (once he found out that I had this), that I panicked and broke his. Now I am back in a relationship that would definitely be better off being finished, and missing the person I wanted to be with more than anything.

Annie


Wow, Annie. I am sorry to hear about your situation. Your ex is an ass. Not only did he treat your poorly, but he gave you an STD, then used it as a way to hook you back into a relationship that isn't healthy. Leave the relationship you've been sucked back into. It's for your own good. Seek some counseling and see what becomes of that. As far as "New Guy", contact him and talk with him. If he loves you as much as you love him, nothing should stand in the way of being with you. Counseling first, make sure you're ready for this, then find him. Good luck.

Sean