Weird..

So it appears as if Lys can't take the pressure of giving advice. She sent me an email today backing out of the co-contributor spot because she feels that "the burden of giving advice is too much for her to accomplish". Okay. Thanks Lys for standing in. The search begins again.

That said, here is one of two advice requests that I sent her, now just answered by me:

Gina from Kansas writes,

Hi guys,

I love this site. I am not really a fan of your music tastes, but the advice here is great. Here is my issue. I am sensing that I may be in love with a co-worker. I've known him for two years and we get along great. Over the course of the past few months, we have grown pretty close, due to him finally getting a divorce. He was in an awful marriage when we first started working together and I have been there for him (as a friend) the whole time. He is now divorced and I have found myself dropping the walls I'd put up while he was married. The other night while we were out for happy hour I even kissed him.

Here is the problem. I kissed him and hinted at how I felt, then pulled back and saw an utterly terrified look on his face. We've not talked much since then. Did I mess things up? Do you think he feels the same and I just took him off guard? I don't know what to do..

Gina


Gina- Are you sure he was terrified? If you kissed him and caught him off guard, that may have been the look you saw. Has he hinted about liking you? If he has or if he hasn't, you should make an effort to let him know how you feel. The kiss isn't always a good indicator of someone's true intentions, so figure out how he feels about things and go from there. He may feel the same way and he may not, but clearing the air is a good idea. Whatever you do, don't kiss him again without figuring out his stance on things. You don't want to ruin anything, whether its a friendship or something more.

More tomorrow.