Vacation

So I was off for a few days. It was my birthday weekend and I got out of the house for a bit. Back to business..

With Lys gone, I am taking time to answer a few random emails from readers before getting back to the advice.

Letter One:

Kari from North Dakota wrote:

Sean, I love your site! I wish I could meet you. You seem like a really good person to get to know. I have only lived in ND for three years, but it seems like most of the guys here are goobers. Anyway, I just thought I'd say hi. Do you get up to ND often?

Kari

Kari, I don't get up to ND often. In fact I haven't been there since 1995. I lived there for a bit and I didn't turn out to be a goober (or so I am told) so give it time. Maybe you'll find that diamond..in the pile of goobers.


Letter Two:

Sam from Pocatello wrote:

I love your site and was wondering, how do you "know people" so well? You've been spot on with everything you've said.

Sam

Sam, I know people because I am always people watching. I have a habit of hearing two or three conversations at a time and can people watch while having a conversation with someone else. I notice little things people do, like the way they talk, the words the use, their accents and how they behave. Over the course of time, I have realized people are linear in how they act. Everything they do relates to everything they've done. It's like an old city that keeps building a new city on top of itself. Everything that was there is still there, some of us, just allow more access to the past "city" than others. The point is, that we build ourselves over and over again and watching someone act and react now will give clues to how they reacted and acted before.

Sean

Letter Three:

Dean from Denver wrote:

How do you know these people live where they say they do? Couldn't they just make up a name and location?

Dean

How do I know you're from Denver Dean? How do I know your name is Dean? I don't, and I don't care. Your name isn't what is important, and the same goes with your location. What matters is that you've developed a need to have a question answered or some advice given and I am here to help. Whether you're Paul from Minneapolis, or Sandra from Zanzibar, I am here to give you any bit of assistance I can.

Sean