Max's letter

Max wrote:

I like your blog. It's refreshing to see someone that has no problem being honest.

I have a dilemma that I am hoping you can help me with. I am a divorced male who started dating a wonderful woman about 9 months ago. With the holidays approaching, I have decided to take her home to meet my family, but I am worried that my family won't be as accepting of her as they were my ex wife. My family is a very conservative family, with the stereotypical Midwestern values (overly religious), food preferences (mainly meat and potatoes, nothing spicy, etc) and my (now) ex was the exact same. I was not, am not, and my new girlfriend is also not, the same as my family. My girlfriend and I are more spiritual than religious, we are vegan, and she has quite a few tattoos.

She and I have a wonderful relationship and I love her more than I ever thought I could love someone, but I am worried that my family won't like her. What do I do?
Max


Max, if image is what you're concerned about (and from the words you used, it appears you are..), then I'd say either do what you think your parents would want you to do and dump her, or do what you'd like to do and keep her.

You listed off the differences you and your new girlfriend have with your family almost as if you're trying to PROVE you're different than they are. I emailed you back to ask where you're living now in comparison to the Midwest, and didn't get a response, so I will assume you moved to Arizona and became another sun-soaked d-bag in the worst state on Earth. If you're SO set on being different, why don't you just be REALLY different and not go home for the holidays?

You need to have a talk with your parents and work out your differences. As far as you bringing your girlfriend home, why don't you work that into the conversation with your parents BEFORE you get home instead of just springing it on them (and her) and testing what happens? Stop being so set on being different and start respecting the fact that you are all adults and have individual needs and differences. We all do. I am glad you love this woman though. If you feel she's a keeper make sure it's not just because she's different.

Personally, I think being vegan must suck this time of year. Maybe it doesn't..I don't know.

Sean

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