Soft Black Stars

campos182 wrote:

One of your friends suggested I read this blog and I must say, after reading it I am amazed. You seem like such a wonderful and dynamic person. It's good to see there are still guys like you left in this world.

I know how it is to have a relationship come to an abrupt end, my marriage of 2 years came to a screeching halt when I came home one day to find my husband packing his things. He said he just realized that he wasn't ready for marriage and that he wasn't in love with me. My question for you is this: Do you think it is ever really possible to move on, or is there a part of you that will always wonder what if would have been like if you'd stayed together with that person?

CC

That's a good question CC. In fact, it's one I've asked myself after a few breakups. Would things be better? Would things be different? What exactly WOULD life be like?

When all is said and done though, it doesn't matter. You could go through your whole life wondering about the flip side of every choice you've made, or every decision you've been a part of, but where will it get you? A decision is made and becomes part of the past , but your life isn't in the past. The past is only a vehicle to get you to the present. In the present, you'll dictate what happens in the future.

Maybe you feel this need to wonder "what if" because there is something missing in your life (and I don't mean the husband). As a result, you are clinging on to the only thing you thought was concrete. You thought this man was your destiny and when it all ended, you had trouble giving it up. If you keep looking back, you'll miss what you need to see going forward.

So, to answer your question, I myself have wondered from time to time, but I know when to let go, and I think once you learn how to do that, you'll be find yourself more fulfilled with the present..

Sean