Another response.

Jeff from Montana wrote:

I always say if it smells like sh*t and looks like sh*t, it IS sh*t. If you feel like you made a mistake and it seems like you made a mistake, then you did make a mistake. BUT, it's fixing that mistake that counts.

I have been with my wife for 10 years. Before that, we dated for one year and during that time, we broke up once because she felt suffocated. I'd just moved out there and didn't have many friends, so when I met her, I loved getting to know her. I wanted to spend lots of time with her. What I didn't realize, and what she didn't tell me was that she felt like she couldn't have a "girls night" or see her friends because she felt obligated to see me. Things boiled over one night when we'd made plans and she wanted to comfort a friend that had some unrelated relationship issues. We argued for a bit, and all of a sudden all of this STUFF started coming up in the conversation. I had no idea that she was feeling this way.

We took some time off. I was crushed when I found out she went on a few dates. I began to give up. What she realized though, was that I WAS the right one for her. She called me up one day and we talked over a beer at our favorite bar and we realized that our relationship was PERFECT but we both needed to work on our communication skills. I needed to show her that she could have her time to also be a friend and sister without encountering any frustration from me, and she needed to work on being upfront and honest with me. It worked out and we're still together, with three kids.

I don't know what mistake was made here or who made it. Fixing it may be hard, but if you both want it, it will work out.

Good luck...!
Jeff