Opening a can of worms. I and J's responses

I's response
1. Why do you feel the relationship ended?
1. We grew apart.

2. Why do you think I THINK the relationship ended?
2. I took you for granted. I did, but I think that once you realized that, you'd closed yourself off.

3. What is my biggest character flaw?
3. Once you end a relationship you don't look back.

4. What did I think your biggest flaw (if any) was?
4. I am flirty.

5. Was it a rough breakup?
5. Yes. That is all I will say. I think you know how and why.

6. What did you learn?
6. I wasn't a good person at that time. I was all about me and not really concerned with the other parts of a relationship.


J's response

1. Why do you feel the relationship ended?
1. I cheated on you and was...abusive.

2. Why do you think I THINK the relationship ended?
2. Same thing.

3. What is my biggest character flaw?
3. Temper, dishonesty, abusiveness, you name it.

4. What did I think your biggest flaw (if any) was?
4. You stayed calm and were always willing to talk. It drove me crazy.

5. Was it a rough breakup?
5. I kind of flipped out...so yeah.

6. What did you learn?
6. After you, I ended up in a relationship where everything that I'd done to you was done to me. It was at that point that I realized that I needed to straighten myself out. I've done that and am happily married. I have come to terms with who I was and I apologize. Anyway, I am going on and on. Thanks for writing me, though I can't figure out how you found my email.



I am resourceful, I guess. Thanks to all of you that responded. Conclusion is in the next post.