A letter from Selena

Selena didn't give a location. She wrote:

My name is Selena and I am writing for a different reason. I have a wonderful fiancee and we've got a child together, but the problem is that I don't love him anymore. He and I were always good friends, but we don't work as a couple. He is a wonderful person, but I can't be with him anymore. I saw you and your daughter's mom went through this..can you give any advice?
Selena

Well Selena, my advice to you is to examine if staying together is good just for the child, or if everyone will benefit. Why do you feel you don't love him? If the baby is new, it can put pressure on the relationship because the focus is on the child. It is a tough, but rewarding burden to be a parent.

If the child is older and you feel you've explored all of your options (couples counseling included), then sit down and talk. See if he is feeling the same way. Talk about your differences and see what happens.

I went through this, I spent time alone, and time dating and ended up meeting Tracy. If you truly both feel that splitting is the only remaining option, it probably is the best option. Liz and I are still good friends, and we both realized that our best option was being friends. Good luck.