Opening a can of worms. Bonus response..

So I also sent these questions to Olivia's mom and here is what I got back.




1. Why do you feel the relationship ended?
1. I think from the beginning we were just better as friends, we could always talk about everything, but the romance was just not there for us, I think.

2. Why do you think I THINK the relationship ended?
2. I think the same reason.

3. What is my biggest character flaw?
3. Moving the relationship too quickly. (I felt that was one of hers too.)

4. What did I think your biggest flaw (if any) was?
4. Didn't initiate romance. (Wrong. It was that she felt I didn't initiate romance enough)

5. Was it a rough breakup?
5. I'd say a bit more than some especially since we were dealing with having a child together, but I think we were able to handle it pretty well. Just hard when you're planning on spending the rest of you life with someone and then realizing that it just wasn't meant to be.

6. What did you learn?
6. Probably what you should have learned... to take things slow in a relationship so you really know when it's meant to be.

A little background here. Liz and I are still friends. We split up and saved a great friendship that has allowed us to be great parents to an incredible little girl. Liz has since remarried to a cool guy and we split custody of our daughter. She's still one of my closest friends.

She provided me with some good advice here. I think Tracy and I skipped over some important parts of our relationship and if she ever reenters my life, I hope to make up for that. Tracy and I had so many things in common, coupled with the romance, the love, and the friendship, there just needed to be more friendship and I think I didn't recognize that until it was too late. Sometimes love can be stressful, even if you bring it on yourself by your words and actions. Not getting caught up in the love and taking a step back once in awhile to realize that your true love should also be your friend is a hard thing to do...but it is the right thing to do. Liz, you're wonderful for responding.