Bonnie

Bonnie from WI wrote:

Hi Sean

I am a little older than most of your readers, I am assuming, since I've never heard of any of your music artists, but a work friend recommended this site after I came to her for advice.

Here is my issue. I am out of a 10 year marriage and finding it tough to go back into the dating scene. I am over my ex, he was unfaithful, and as much as it hurt, it wasn't worth sticking around for (waiting for him to change).

I have been single for a year now and feel like I've found myself again, but I am finding the whole dating scene intimidating. I've tried meeting people through friends, but it doesn't work. I've tried singles clubs, but it doesn't work (THOSE seem to be more of a random hookup club). I haven't tried internet dating and I am wondering what you think of it?

Bonnie

Thanks for writing Bonnie. I am glad you took time after your relationship to reestablish yourself. It really gives a new perspective, huh? Anyway, I just wanted to say that I am all for internet dating. Yeah, I know there's that Match.com link over to the left, but I am not saying I like internet dating for that reason..

I think that times have changed. Where our parents may have found someone through social fucntions or going to the bar or club (disco?), it's not usually a good option anymore. I've also found that our friends often confuse their own interests when choosing someone for their friend to meet as well. Internet dating is a safe way to get to know someone before meeting them face to face. It's also nice to see if things even click, before meeting in person. If not, then ho harm done..but if things click and you do meet, it can make for a fun evening of getting to know someone even more. It's not for everyone, but I'd recommend trying it to see if it's right for you.

Sean