holy backlash batman..

Looks like my last post caused some controversy. I will clarify and hopefully shed some more light on the advice I gave.

True, while dating has become more difficult for both men and women, The fading of the tradition of courting has actually made things easier in the dating world. Courting should not be confused with flirting or being respectful or romantic either..courting was a guy showering a woman with gifts and attention in the hope that she'd eventually give in and date him. There us much more to it than that, but I just explained the framework.

All courting did was give the man control. In a time when women had THE goal of finding a man and marrying him, only to stay at home, pop out kids, and make sure dinner was ready by the time hubby came home, courting gave the male power to pick and choose his mate. He'd talk with her parents and then they'd court, briefly date, then get married.

In today's society men and women are both formidable forces in the dating world and I feel both people should be equally active. Courting isn't dating, and if your idea of dating doesn't involve being close, possibly holding hands, and getting to know someone on a personal level, then you aren't dating..chances are you're just sleeping with someone. Dating is a complicated, wonderful, sometimes emotional experience, and when it seem that one person is doing 100% of the work in a situation like that, I can easily see that person getting frustrated and taking their efforts to someone that will reciprocate.

My advice was to let go of the courting plan and to move on to actual dating. It's when two people SHARE these experiences that things truly become magical.