Jenny's letter

Jenny wrote:
Are there any good guys left? All I want is a hot guy with a six pack that loves to travel and go out. All I ever get is guys that are dishonest, vain, self-centered, materialistic jerks. I am 27 years old and don't want to settle, but I can't figure out where all of the good ones are..

Jenny


Oof Jenny. Letters like this take every bit of my good nature to fight the urge to rip you a new one as I respond.

If all you want is a "hot guy" with a six pack that is in to travel and going out, chances are that you're attracting those self-centered, materialistic, vain jerks. What personality traits do you look for? What about kindness, honesty, good conversation, trust, or intelligence? Are you even looking for those, or does the idea of a washboard stomach scrub those traits right out of your head?

The good ones are all around you. You are just too closed-minded to see that. It's the guy that would talk to you in the middle of the night because you'd have a bad day, or the guy that would drive 20 miles just to help jump your car that are the GOOD ones. The types you are attracting are just like slapping paint on a condemned building. It may look good on the outside, but inside it's just rotten. Not all "pretty boys" are like this, some are actually nice guys. However, if you're coupling the "pretty boy" type with material excesses like travel and going out, you're usually picking out the "good boy" types and leaving a thick layer of douchiness.

Open your eyes and look around. There are good guys everywhere. With and without six packs.

Sean