Hollie's letter pt 1

Earlier today, Hollie wrote:

I have a problem. I am on an internet dating site. Okay, I am on Match. I really love it and it's brought some amazing people into my life, but as quickly as they've entered, they've been scared off. I am absolutely terrified of people finding out I am using the internet to date. I am so scared of people finding out that I lie to my friends and family and I make the men lie too. It just makes me feel cheesy if people know that's how we met. Most take it in stride at first, but get upset and refuse to lie anymore, so I move on..without them.

Help! I don't want to lose any more good people.

P.S. Your last two advice letters were AWESOME.

Hollie (p.s.s. also not my real name)

Well Hollie, I am glad you thought my advice to them was great because I am about to lay into you the same way. You need to grow up. Internet dating is pretty commonplace in this day and age and the fact that you feel "cheesy" doing it is one thing, but lying and asking others to lie too is a different story. It seems to me that you may place WAY too much value in what people think of you. I have a few questions for you, and I'd like you to respond. I'll post them and the second half of my response to you.

1. Are you adopted?

2. What is your family life like?

3. Do you feel you have self esteem issues?

4. What were your former relationships like?

5. Why do you feel cheesy using online dating services?

Sean