Hillary wrote:
Hmmm, what are traits I look for? I look for physical attraction, similar values, athleticism, and an education. I guess the most important thing is financial status though. I grew up with very little money (we had 9 kids in the family) and I made a decision to no longer live like that, so I usually choose men with a larger than average financial status. I know you'll probably say it's part of the problem...
Hillary
You're damn right I will. Picking someone based upon financial status is a HUGE mistake. If you're picking a potential mate for their abundance of or lack of money and making that your focus, you're more than likely going to overlook some great traits..or in your case, traits that make them an asshole.
Relationships are between two PEOPLE not bank accounts. Most of us require some physical attraction (I'd never date a woman that looked like Bruce Willis...sorry Bruce Willis), similar interests, and that connection we feel, but beyond that, you should be letting nature take its course and forming an actual relationship based upon getting to know someone for who they are, not what they bring to the boardroom.
You've overlooked some poor (not literally poor) guy that may not be making much because you felt your family was not well off? Shame on you. Your family did the best they could (you got into a great school judging from your email address) and you turned out okay, so what are you complaining about? If you don't want to be poor, concentrate on getting a good job for yourself. After that, concentrate on finding a good man, for richer or poorer, that will care for you like no other.
Sean