Why do you come by if you're leaving?

It's a song lyric, but that lyric is a poignant one. As I sat here today, just home from the gym and drinking a protein shake, someone called me to ask for advice. It was a voice I hadn't heard before, yet one that I was happy to hear from. The advice I gave was about an unhappy situation.

When do we know it is over? How do we know when to quit? Should we quit? Should we fight for it?

These are all questions that race through our heads when dealing with a relationship that is collapsing before our very eyes, and they are all valid questions, but they don't have a standard answer. The thing we must realize is that that there are no fairytale endings, and it's for the best. We live in real life, with real struggles and real tears, and it's THOSE moments..not the fairytale..worth the ending we are looking for.

We may or may not get back together with the one we think we're supposed to be with. In the end, that isn't the point though, the point is, how much did we grow along the experience? Did we realize and work on things within ourselves? Did we grow as human beings? Are we now capable of being in a loving and committed relationship?

The choice is yours. Remember, there is no fairytale ending. The ending is yours to make.